When you encounter a difficult situation or even a failure, do you come out of it bitter or better?
These are the two options every time, whether we realize it or not.
You can be bitter - hold resentment against other people or ourselves. Decide we're never going to "go there" again. Relive the negativity around the situation.
Or, you can become better, learning from the experience. If it's a failure, learning what can be done differently next time. Or if it's a difficult situation with another person, digging deeper to find a resolution.
Being bitter ends up taking you down a limiting road of negativity, shame, and resentment.
Deciding on becoming better opens up a wealth of possibilities for growth.
Just remember, even if it doesn't feel like it most of the time, you get to choose.